Let’s unpack the love language of children who need quality time to feel loved.

These children will use words like ‘watch this, ‘look at me, ‘please come and play with me’ and ‘just you and me, Mommy’.

Quality time children will feel especially loved when spending one-on-one time with their parents and siblings. During busy schedules and limited free time during a twenty-four hour period, setting aside this much-needed time with your child takes some doing. However, you need to know that these very important snippets of time spent together will fill up their time ‘love bucket’ daily and you will have a very contented child.

Listening to parents’ conversations today, we can imagine that this must be one of the most challenging love languages to manage without feeling guilty at times. Physical touch, gifting, words of affirmation, and acts of service, can be managed with relative ease during a typical day, but setting aside this vital one-on-one special time is a challenge. However, this sacrifice will help your child feel safe, loved and accepted by the parents. All relationships between parents and children are built on essential associations that will lead to confident adults who will tackle the future without fear of failing.

When disciplining these time children, keep in mind never to isolate them with a time-out or send them to their rooms as this will only make your child feel unloved. Keeping these children content and out of mischief could take as little as ten minutes of good uninterrupted time.

Kristen, from Busy Kids Happy Mom says:

‘Quality time is my child’s love language too. A well-loved child is easier to discipline. Love, then discipline, then teach. Quality time happens when time is spent together. When a child is in trouble, our natural inclination is to remove them from us. This could potentially hurt a quality time person. I did find that having my son sit on the steps when he needed a time out helped because he could still hear us, but was not in complete isolation. I’ve found when the love tank is full, the behaviour is better.’

Remember to listen actively to their conversations, maintain eye contact all the time, and pick a spot where there a few distractions when spending quality time with your child.

Fariha Mahmud-Syed, a psychotherapist has this to say about the love language of quality time:

”This love language is all about giving your undivided attention to that one special person, without the distraction of television, phone screens, or any other outside interference.”

These quality time children function on togetherness. A daily walk with these children will create the time to find out about their day, give them your undivided attention and fill up their ‘love buckets’ simultaneously.

Reading to them while they play in their bedrooms also indicates your choice to spend time with them, one on one.

Phrases like ‘come into my room, I want to show you something’ or ‘watch this’ or ‘have a look at this’ all indicate that your child needs quality time with you.

Until next time,

Keep Sparkling!

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